by Dannielle Owens-Reid and Kristin Russo, co-founders of The Parents Project
When your child first comes out to you, you may feel taken by surprise, or confused by what it all means. In those initial days, weeks, or months after your child has come out, you may find yourself placing blame on…
[Image of Conchita Wurst holding a card that reads, ‘WANN HAST DU ENTSCHIEDEN HETERO ZU SEIN?’ (When did you decide to be straight?)]
Everything you wanted to know about transgender people but were afraid to ask.
So I hadn’t yet come out to my mum and today I got home to see that someone had changed the cover on my bed to this
And then I saw that they left a note on the bed, so I went over to take a look at it and
My mum is the best
[Image shows rainbow coloured bed sheets and a note that reads, ‘It’s okay I know your gay. Love mum <3 xxx’
This is my husband, Hadrien. He’s the most amazing man I’ve ever known. He’s strong, and patient. He’s kind and could make anyone laugh and he is trans. We’ve been through so much together, but our next journey is going to be adoption. We’re reaching out to our tumblr family in hopes of help. He’s trans and I have PCOS so it’s not possible for us to start a family by ourselves. We were wondering if you might share our story and help us build our dream. <3 H&K
"I think we all evolve as we get older and that’s normal but I like to think that my recent transition hasn’t made me into a different individual. Same person, no difference at all just a different sex."
June 27, 2014
New York, New York
Let me talk to you about books.
Specifically, one book. This book.
This book should be a best seller. This book should be required reading for graduating from high school. Before you get that diploma, you read this book.
This book deals with debunking “Neurosexism,” which is a very fancy term for all of that evolutionary psychology bullshit that people spill about those “brain differences” between boys and girls.
This book debunks such myths as:
- Boys are better at math than girls
- Women make crappy lawyers/business CEOs/etc, as their brains are not cut out for aggression.
- Men make crappy counselors/primary school teachers/primary parents/etc, as their brains are not cut out for empathy.
- MEN ARE BUILT FOR GOING OUT AND HUNTING WHILE WOMEN ARE BUILT FOR STAYING HOME AND BABYMAKING IT’S NOT SEXISM IT’S JUST BIOLOGY
- And many other such myths.
Furthermore, this book covers topics such as:
- Neurosexism and gender perceptions in multiple races (as this is not a singularly white experience, just as the western world isn’t a singularly white experience)
- Sex discrimination in the workplace, and how women are (or, more often, are not) allowed to behave
- How science is used (badly) to support many of these claims
- Experiences of trans* people, both through interviews and empirical studies.
AND FINALLY - It is all brilliantly researched, cited, compiled - and it’s easy to read! Cordelia Fine actually manages to be funny while writing this, which I think is important, because it makes all of this information infinitely accessible.
Delusions of Gender has reinforced what Oberlin taught me: The gender binary is stupid and arbitrary, and dangerous. And it is a self-perpetuating bias that needs to be addressed to be overcome.
A few days ago, a member of the Tumblr staff emailed me asking if I minded giving them my name, address, and shirt size. I honestly didn’t expect much, but I sent it off anyway.
Yesterday, I received what you see above. A tie-dye t-shirt with the words ‘yay gay’ printed on to it, a few stickers, a notepad, and a card. For those of you that can’t read it, the card says:
Tumblr is a hope for everyone. Thank you for using your voice and Tumblr for good!
And I just wanted to thank you guys. Without you, there would be no lgbtgivesmehope. But here we are and I’m so proud of it and all of you.
Thank you all so much :)
When I am old and grey, I will look back on today.